Hey High Achiever, these are for you:
Why We Need A Mindset Shift For Problem Solving
Struggling to solve problems in your life or work? I recently learned a powerful lesson from my garden that transformed how I approach challenges. Discover how an ancient gardening practice called ollas helped me shift my mindset and find sustainable solutions. In this blog post, I dive into the neuroscience behind why we get stuck in old patterns and how changing your mindset can unlock new possibilities. Whether you’re looking to create calm, embrace simplicity, or find a better way to solve modern problems, this article is for you.
Why Traditional Health Clocks Don’t Work
Over the years, I’ve come across a lot of advice about aligning with natural rhythms—circadian rhythms, Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) clocks, Ayurvedic clocks—you name it. And while these ideas sound beautiful in theory, I’ve found myself increasingly frustrated. They just don’t work for me, and I’m beginning to think they don’t work for many people, especially those of us living with chronic illnesses. So I decided to research them and find out where these clocks came from.
Overcoming People-Pleasing as a Highly Sensitive Person
Not that I’m always looking for silver linings (because I feel that’s largely unhelpful) but this time I found one in overcoming people pleasing as a highly-sensitive person. This flare up showed me where my people-pleasing has gotten much more sneaky.
Often when we talk about people pleasing, we think of:
Agreeing to something even though we don’t have the time, energy or mental white space for it
Offering to help even when we didn’t give ourselves a chance to think about it
Bending over backwards to make sure someone else is happy. Even if it comes at the cost of our own wellbeing and mental health
Changing how you show up with a different group of people to fit in (when you go against who you really are in order to feel accepted)
This time, my Inner People-Pleaser was so much more sneaky.Â
Importance of not Comparing Struggles
Comparison can be both a comforting and destructive force. On one hand, comparing our struggles to those who have it worse can serve us by helping put things into perspective.
How to Handle Being Misunderstood
You see, I’ve actively faced and challenged the misunderstandings that have arisen, particularly within my own family, and I’ve grown from those experiences. For most of my life, they haven’t really seen me—the true me. Not that it’s their fault really.
How to Stop Seeing Self-Care as Transactional
The understanding of self-care as transactional often begins in childhood. Whether it’s the subtle cues from family members, societal expectations, or the environments we grow up in, we’re taught that our worth is tied to what we can produce or how we can serve others.
Window of Tolerance: A Guide for Highly Sensitive High Achievers
At the end of 2021, I started experiencing extremely high levels of anxiety. With three to four panic attacks a day, things weren’t normal for me. The frustrating thing was that my usual stress management strategies weren’t working.
Benefits of Play for High Achievers: Why Your Hobbies Aren’t Fun
All or nothing thinking doesn’t just affect our actions; it influences our emotions and self-worth. On days when I felt unable to meet my high standards, I’d spiral into feelings of inadequacy and self-criticism